tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6502472847713535526Thu, 07 Jan 2010 20:43:53 +0000Real Life Parenting Experiences To Be Shared With Parents All Over The Worldhttp://parents-children.blogspot.com/aromatherapy_belair@yahoo.com (Dilasari Hidayat)Blogger43125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6502472847713535526.post-2968109381880339543Tue, 05 May 2009 23:56:00 +00002010-01-06T17:25:47.048-08:00Parenting toddlershome learningYoung children around me whom I know quite well, learn the alphabets and numbers without difficulty. The little girl, who lives across from our house, managed to recognize letters from A to Z while she was still two years old. So did Rania. Special thanks to Ayuta (my nephew).We inherited a little desk from Ayuta. It has been in our house for 15 years now. Ninta was the first one who inherited ithttp://parents-children.blogspot.com/2009/05/blog-post.htmlaromatherapy_belair@yahoo.com (Dilasari Hidayat)3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6502472847713535526.post-5050908202473415836Sat, 25 Apr 2009 17:22:00 +00002010-01-07T11:26:00.213-08:00Preserving our cultureaku cinta buatan indonesiaindonesian productsGood habitssoedarpoI love Indonesian products (=Aku cinta buatan Indonesia) and I'm serious!!! .I always prefer local brands though I wear imported shoes too. There's an explanation for it.These are what I have:some locally made sandalsa pair of locally made jogging-shoesfour pairs of high-heel-shoes from a European brand. Two pairs of the high-heel-shoes were bought 10 years ago. The third pair was a gift from my http://parents-children.blogspot.com/2009/04/good-habits-i-love-indonesian-products.htmlaromatherapy_belair@yahoo.com (Dilasari Hidayat)5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6502472847713535526.post-6362960733266215028Wed, 11 Mar 2009 13:37:00 +00002010-01-07T11:07:46.684-08:00tantrumParenting toddlersReal life parenting is also about dealing with tantrum. How to avoid young children from developing tantrum?I have some tips based on personal experiences:Spend much time with your children in order to develop a close attachment with them. Do always speak softly and show attention to them. Never ignore your children. Follow what the children like if necessary. Once, we bought a pair of blue jean http://parents-children.blogspot.com/2009/03/parenting-toddler-tantrum-2.htmlaromatherapy_belair@yahoo.com (Dilasari Hidayat)4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6502472847713535526.post-4090588061045060458Tue, 03 Feb 2009 01:30:00 +00002010-01-06T00:55:18.588-08:00Parenting toddlershome learningThere are two kindergartens not far from my house. The nearest one is right around the corner of the street and the other one is located on the main street. I checked them out a few days ago, as Rania will turn 4 this coming June..The nearest kindergarten, Al Kautsar, is an Islamic school as shown by its name. It is extremely affordable. To enter the school you only need to pay levy fee Rp750.000http://parents-children.blogspot.com/2009/02/parenting-toddlers-home-schooling-1.htmlaromatherapy_belair@yahoo.com (Dilasari Hidayat)8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6502472847713535526.post-7918753283130582834Mon, 02 Feb 2009 14:17:00 +00002009-09-14T05:28:15.648-07:00I would like to thank my two new friends for these two lovely awards: mbak Lala and mbak Maya.Saya masih punya PR mengirim 2 award tersebut ke teman blogger lain, harus mikir dulu beberapa malam nih...sabar yah. Tugas untuk yang nanti dikasih awards adalah:Pasang logonya di postinganmu. Jangan lupa link ke pemberi award ini. Berikan lagi kepada sepuluh blogger lain (ada syarat tambahan untuk yanghttp://parents-children.blogspot.com/2009/02/blog-awards.htmlaromatherapy_belair@yahoo.com (Dilasari Hidayat)5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6502472847713535526.post-7273806931161263964Wed, 21 Jan 2009 17:12:00 +00002009-08-31T05:21:53.229-07:00Parenting children (age 5-12)Supporting the communityAqmal always gave me his disagreeable look every time I gently asked him to stop doing certain things…things that young children else where also do when they gather and play together.. I, of course, felt unhappy seeing that look on his face, nevertheless I still had to keep reminding him. Until that morning…That morning was as hectic as usual. Aqmal was putting on his socks in a rush and focusinghttp://parents-children.blogspot.com/2009/01/parenting-children-respest-peoples.htmlaromatherapy_belair@yahoo.com (Dilasari Hidayat)10tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6502472847713535526.post-7533087260435302437Fri, 02 Jan 2009 17:13:00 +00002010-01-04T22:02:16.407-08:00Children's futureParenting children (age 5-12)lifespanlife missionDeveloping spiritual lifeParenting teenagersAll cells in our body undergo biological aging process at different rates and - in the end - death is inevitable. Our life spans have limits. The connection between telomerase shortening mechanism, aging process and lifespan limits has been uncovered. Death is not that mysterious anymore.There are many spiritual books which also tell us that every human being has his own mission in this world. http://parents-children.blogspot.com/2009/01/parenting-children-whats-your-life.htmlaromatherapy_belair@yahoo.com (Dilasari Hidayat)6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6502472847713535526.post-7869662485981690497Fri, 26 Dec 2008 13:19:00 +00002010-01-06T16:32:10.145-08:00Count your blessingholidayHappy holidays!!!I'm thankful to the children for giving me good news to start the holiday: Aqmal (as always) comes out as the best student among all third graders in his school. Ninta passes the written test and is now preparing for an interview in order to win a full scholarship offered by one of the most prestigious and expensive Senior High Schools in Jakarta. She expresses her gratitude by http://parents-children.blogspot.com/2008/12/i-am-thankful-to-children.htmlaromatherapy_belair@yahoo.com (Dilasari Hidayat)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6502472847713535526.post-2132243525387627671Thu, 11 Dec 2008 21:35:00 +00002010-01-07T11:11:20.716-08:00Children's futurelaskar pelangiParenting teenagersThe best seller "Laskar Pelangi" (laskar=soldier, pelangi=rainbow) is one of my favorite novels. It's non-fiction, full with humor and adventures, shows good moral lessons as well as interesting detailed description of Melayu (=Malay) traditions. As widely known, parenting children could often be a stressful job too, so I need to read good novels like this one to keep my mental healthy. I need http://parents-children.blogspot.com/2008/12/parenting-teenagers-ninta-does-only.htmlaromatherapy_belair@yahoo.com (Dilasari Hidayat)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6502472847713535526.post-4551380599823024860Thu, 04 Dec 2008 11:43:00 +00002010-01-06T00:55:56.702-08:00No home without good mealspangek gajeboh"Paying attention to corporeal matters like eating, exercising, and sleep can help you be happier" (Gretchen Rubin)..Gretchen Rubin - a young woman, lawyer, writer, and currently working on the Happyness Project - lives in New York City.My mother-in-law, an older generation, lives in Jakarta. She doesn't know her precise date of birth. Her parents wrote down all their seven children's dates of http://parents-children.blogspot.com/2008/12/indonesian-food-pangek-gajeboh.htmlaromatherapy_belair@yahoo.com (Dilasari Hidayat)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6502472847713535526.post-2570890202836555476Thu, 27 Nov 2008 00:29:00 +00002010-01-07T11:04:17.713-08:00Parenting toddlersParenting children (age 5-12)Count your blessingthe gold domeIt was a Sunday with lots of blessing for us.We decided to take a trip to the beutiful Dian Almahri mosque in Cinere (Jakarta) and then have lunch somewhere else. We had wanted to go to the mosque for several times but always failed.Dian Almahri mosque is the fourth mosque in the world that has gold dome. The other three mosques are:Masjid Jame’ Asr atau Masjid Bandar Seri Begawan in Brunei, http://parents-children.blogspot.com/2008/11/count-your-blessing-dian-al-mahri.htmlaromatherapy_belair@yahoo.com (Dilasari Hidayat)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6502472847713535526.post-1683162794406068912Mon, 10 Nov 2008 02:04:00 +00002010-01-07T11:17:01.311-08:00Parenting children (age 5-12)adhyaksa daudhome learningAqmal, my second child, approached someone and asked a question:"Do you know Mr. Iwan?"Mr. Adhyaksa Daud (the Minister of Youth and Sports of Indonesia) answered:"Yes, what is your relationship with him?"Aqmal answered:"He's my father".The above conversation happened when Mr. Daud came to pick up his daughter, Fahira, a few days ago. Fahira is in the same class with Aqmal in grade 3. Mr Daud and http://parents-children.blogspot.com/2008/11/parenting-children-im-defensif-about.htmlaromatherapy_belair@yahoo.com (Dilasari Hidayat)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6502472847713535526.post-4976196127866604012Fri, 07 Nov 2008 17:01:00 +00002010-01-07T11:18:01.704-08:00maidCount your blessing Finally I have someone suitable to help me with the housework Taking up the bulk of cooking, the daily care of the three children, the dirty clothes, the cleaning and other household chores were my typical frenzied days before the maid comes. It's all manual work: broom and wet-cloth for cleaning the floor, no washing machine (it's detergent, brush and my two hard-working hands) and everything http://parents-children.blogspot.com/2008/11/count-your-blessing-what-does-maid-do.htmlaromatherapy_belair@yahoo.com (Dilasari Hidayat)2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6502472847713535526.post-9161742513472528212Thu, 06 Nov 2008 16:23:00 +00002008-11-16T09:10:40.565-08:00Parenting teenagersOur lives are all about making choices. Childhood as well as teenage years are certainly the best time to learn what to pick and choose.My husband and I often tell our children, especially Ninta (our eldest child and a teenager), to carefully select their friends. We encourage them to make as many friends as possible and also tell them to keep away from badly behaved people.Most of Ninta’s schoolhttp://parents-children.blogspot.com/2008/11/parenting-teenagers-make-friends-with.htmlaromatherapy_belair@yahoo.com (Dilasari Hidayat)2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6502472847713535526.post-7362840108469838943Tue, 04 Nov 2008 00:24:00 +00002009-11-15T19:01:44.447-08:00wonderful childrenParenting children (age 5-12)Count your blessingIs it difficult to educate young children? Apparently not, because I've seen wonderful children every where. They are my source of inspiration...Someone I know very well, Akang, has two teenage children. He often visits remote villages in the mountainous area of Sukabumi (west Java), his home town. His mission is to distribute charity money that he has collected from a list of his close friends http://parents-children.blogspot.com/2008/11/count-your-blessing-parenting-children.htmlaromatherapy_belair@yahoo.com (Dilasari Hidayat)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6502472847713535526.post-2815636341565931794Fri, 31 Oct 2008 11:08:00 +00002010-01-07T11:29:05.399-08:00Count your blessingworking mothersparenting jobsstay homeSomeone used to call me ‘Nyi’ (=madam) a long time ago.Nyi is a Sundanese (west Javanese) language. I’m a true Sundanese because I grew up in Bandung (the capital city of West Java) and my parents as well as my grandparents are Sundaneses too. Though I feel like I’ve lost my culture ever since I got married to my husband, who is from Padang (west Sumatera). He likes only a few Sundanese food, http://parents-children.blogspot.com/2008/10/madam-who-prefers-to-be-regular-woman.htmlaromatherapy_belair@yahoo.com (Dilasari Hidayat)2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6502472847713535526.post-8070905432919587681Fri, 31 Oct 2008 00:41:00 +00002010-01-07T11:29:50.764-08:00vegetable soupNo home without good mealsfried tofuVegetable soup and fried tofu are most common homemade meals in Jakarta. We often have these meals at our home too.The soup has carrots, potatoes, cabbage and snow peas in it. Lots of people also add cauli flowers, broccoli, green peas, tofu, mushroom or meatballs (bakso). That's why this food is ideal for small children.We also need beef or chicken stock besides vegetables. I prefer lean meat, http://parents-children.blogspot.com/2008/10/indonesian-food-vegetable-soup.htmlaromatherapy_belair@yahoo.com (Dilasari Hidayat)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6502472847713535526.post-3309148146639817015Mon, 27 Oct 2008 15:38:00 +00002010-01-06T16:14:49.167-08:00Children's futureParenting children (age 5-12)children's talentI always look for ways to rouse the children's creativity. One way is by encouraging them to join various activities.My eldest child had a quite long history of trying almost everything since she entered primary school.She tried music once. She started with a vocal lesson, then swiched to drum and quit not long afterwards. A few years later, I asked her if she would try a music lesson again, she http://parents-children.blogspot.com/2008/10/childrens-future-parenting-children.htmlaromatherapy_belair@yahoo.com (Dilasari Hidayat)4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6502472847713535526.post-5886136786850886620Sun, 19 Oct 2008 16:48:00 +00002010-01-06T16:30:16.910-08:00Preserving our cultureSupporting the communitymangopisangbananaI envy countries where peaches grow. I enjoy the soft, juicy and fresh taste of peaches while my mind takes pleasure in relating their bright yellow color with the benefits of antioxidant.This kind of fruit is also exported to Indonesia, immersed in liquid syrup and packed into can. However I just can’t consider ‘canned fruit’ as fruit any more nor I will spend money on imported fruit whereas I http://parents-children.blogspot.com/2008/10/good-habits-choose-local-products-not.htmlaromatherapy_belair@yahoo.com (Dilasari Hidayat)3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6502472847713535526.post-7577639683851772496Sun, 12 Oct 2008 13:06:00 +00002009-08-31T05:26:51.321-07:00CommunicationWouldn’t it be wonderful if we remind each other in the family on any important things?Parents may loss count on how many times they alert children in a day:Children, finish your breakfast before the school bus arrives…Children, don’t watch the TV too long…Children, don’t forget to wash your dirty hand…Children, don’t yell to your brother/sister…What happen if children are the ones who remind http://parents-children.blogspot.com/2008/10/parenting-teenagers-lets-remind-each.htmlaromatherapy_belair@yahoo.com (Dilasari Hidayat)2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6502472847713535526.post-2101381622872789459Sat, 04 Oct 2008 01:48:00 +00002008-11-16T06:24:40.433-08:00Pre marriageIs there any correlation between the number of children a family has and how well parents raise their children? I better tell you about my exploration.Nowadays, more couples whom I know very well, decide to have only one child. Some of my old friends whom I have met again in school reunions, my own sister, one of my nephews, one of my husband’s nephews…they all have only one child. However, the http://parents-children.blogspot.com/2008/10/pre-marriage-guide-does-number-of.htmlaromatherapy_belair@yahoo.com (Dilasari Hidayat)2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6502472847713535526.post-1826168309136332226Mon, 15 Sep 2008 23:16:00 +00002009-11-15T19:06:35.049-08:00Developing spiritual lifePre marriageimamAs Ninta grows bigger, I could shift the burden of having huge responsibilities being her imam (=leader) bit by bit. To whom do I shift it? To Ninta herself, of course. I still have to keep reminding her that she assumes more and more responsibilities for her own manner. If something goes wrong, no one else to blame but herself. .Ninta asked me a long time ago, why I always told her to do shalat http://parents-children.blogspot.com/2008/09/as-ninta-grows-bigger-i-could-shift.htmlaromatherapy_belair@yahoo.com (Dilasari Hidayat)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6502472847713535526.post-3002471589933788476Tue, 09 Sep 2008 15:01:00 +00002010-01-06T16:36:45.386-08:00Parenting children (age 5-12)schoolDeveloping spiritual lifeI admire Aqmal's passion for doing shalat fardhu (the five time daily prayers). It's the result of sending him to a religious primary school, unlike her older sister who graduated from a national plus primary school. National plus schools are schools that offer international curriculum, well equipped school buildings and consequently ask for unquestionably higher tuition fees. Ninta speaks http://parents-children.blogspot.com/2008/09/good-habits-sleep-less-eat-moderately.htmlaromatherapy_belair@yahoo.com (Dilasari Hidayat)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6502472847713535526.post-2650869950118053946Mon, 01 Sep 2008 17:16:00 +00002010-01-06T17:17:23.649-08:00fastingshalat fardhukoranDeveloping spiritual liferamadanThis post was published at "Helium - where knowledge rules" .To honor the holy month of Ramadan...Allah is the Most Generous One, especially to us, the human beings. We can see Allah's generousity throughout Ramadan. During the thirty days of Ramadan, what ever good thing that we do will be rewarded abundantly.One of my favorite things to do during the fasting month is reciting the Koran. Why? http://parents-children.blogspot.com/2008/09/developing-spiritual-life-i-understand.htmlaromatherapy_belair@yahoo.com (Dilasari Hidayat)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6502472847713535526.post-5378878137636598353Tue, 26 Aug 2008 04:00:00 +00002009-01-21T07:50:37.906-08:00Parenting teenagersAqmal catches a new habit: calling up his closest school friend and talking on the phone too long. Someone else in the house has been doing it very often for some time. It’s Ninta and every time I remind her to get off the phone, she responds that her friends are the ones who make those phone calls. It makes me wonder all the time, why her friends’ parents let them make such lengthy phone calls. http://parents-children.blogspot.com/2008/08/dealing-with-teenager-get-off-phone.htmlaromatherapy_belair@yahoo.com (Dilasari Hidayat)0